I can relate to the OP's dilemma about keeping the wheels but getting a wider stance. I have a 2018 Fiat Spider Abarth, and the stock wheels are 17x7 +44 offset, got a set of 17x7.5 +40 offset, thought they'd work just fine. What I didn't take into account was the design of the wheel itself, and the backside of the spokes ended up rubbing against the brake caliper. So if I wanted to keep the wheels, I had to use 10mm spacers, which were hub-centric and bolt-pattern specific. And 10mm looks to be right at the edge of having enough threads left on the original studs to secure the lug nuts.
So for certain applications, spacers are useful. But I think anything wider than 1/4" - 10mm should just use wheels with more backspacing / lower offset.